‘Do some research, then you can be the competent gran.’ Photograph: Getty Images‘Do some research, then you can be the competent gran.’ Photograph: Getty ImagesHow to ...FamilyDon’t act jealous of the other grandparents – and stick to the parents’ rules when you’re looking after the children … mostlyDon’t admit your fears Your beloved adult child is about to embark on a lifelong commitment about which they understand nothing. So it’s not surprising you’re as alarmed for them as you would be if they were sailing the Northwest Passage in flip-flops.

MoviesReview(no cert)From Billy Wilder's Some Like It Hot to Robert Rodriguez's El Mariachi, the juxtaposition of weapon and musical instrument, the gun in the music case, has been potent. The musical instrument is the polar opposite of the weapon - a force for good, surely? - and yet also more dangerous, more destructive: the means of subversion, of mobilising rebellion. First-time feature director Francisco Vargas produces a variant on this traditional theme in his bleak drama, shot in a soupy monochrome and set among the guerrilla revolts in Mexico in the 1970s.

GardensGardeners: what’s the biggest fruit or vegetable you have grown? We’d like to hear about your green-fingered exploits, after a gardener smashed the world record for the biggest pumpkin This week, a US gardener set a new world record for the heaviest pumpkin ever grown. The gargantuan vegetable weighed in at more than 1,200kg. Wherever you are in the world, we would like to hear about the biggest pieces of fruit and vegetables you have grown – and whether any records were broken in the process.

Observer comment cartoon Local elections 2023 Local elections: the end is nigh for the Conservatives – cartoon The bell tolls for the party as councils tumble across the country • You can order your own copy of this cartoon Illustration by Chris Riddell. Chris Riddell Sat 6 May 2023 13.00 EDT Last modified on Sat 6 May 2023 16.30 EDT Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share via Email Topics Local elections 2023 Observer comment cartoon Conservatives ncG1vNJzZmivp6x7tbTEoKyaqpSerq96wqikaJuforqmutOiqp%2BqlZp8sbXCrayrnV9nfXN%2FjqaYsmdga3ytu8Kao2adnJqwtbXOp6pmrJiaeqa6w2agrGWenrSpecWoqWasmJp6pLvNrJyrrpGptrex0maamqqkpLyv

JudiciaryObituaryLord Judge obituaryFormer lord chief justice who was a resolute defender of free speech and the independence of the judiciaryAfter more than 30 years on the bench, culminating in his time as a widely admired lord chief justice of England and Wales (2008-13), Igor Judge, Lord Judge, was not the type to abandon public service. His subsequent career as an active parliamentarian and convenor of crossbench peers in the House of Lords saw him develop into an outspoken defender of democracy who warned of the dangers of an over-mighty executive.